Breakfast in bed, special church services, flowers, cards and gifts will all be the order of the day as we celebrate Mothers Day. Mothers are the hearts and souls of their families. The commitment made by a woman who chooses to become a mother is huge and irrevocable. She is no longer her own person.
The rest of her life she has people depending on her for love and guidance.
Fortunately, throughout my childhood, I had many women who mothered me. My aunts, cousins and the mothers of friends were often there to help me over the rough patches. As I grew older and began keeping house, I would encounter snags that I deemed in need of “Mommy Help.”
I relied on these women to answer the questions life threw my way. Things like the best way to get a stain out of fabric or how to use a pressure cooker without it blowing up. The answers are: cold salt water, and pressure cookers are out of my league.
These answers are now just a mouse click away on Google or any other number of search engines.
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Have you ever noticed how babies make otherwise intelligent people lose their minds. Saying "goo-goo, gaa-gaa," "I’ve got your nose" and other baby talk games are thought to be adorable.
For reasons I can’t fathom people all seem to want to hold the baby when one is brought into a gathering. I have seen mothers get offended when they ask me if I would like to hold the baby and I reply “Gawd No!” and go the opposite direction.
Parents sacrifice a great many things to benefit their families. I have never felt up to the task.
I have always believed that there must be a chemical reaction of hormones that go off in the brain when a person becomes a parent, especially a mother. I think men go through some sort of transformation from rational person to father. This organic infusion makes a parent fall deeply in love with their offspring.
I have always wondered if this would happen to me and what would transpire if it didn’t.
There are mothers who in the throes of post-partum depression do bad things to their children. The sound of a child crying is more than I can stand. Babies cry when they are hungry, need a fresh diaper, and are sleepy or just bored. They learn at an early stage that to get the world to revolve around them, all they have to do is scream and cry.
This mode of attention seeking doesn’t go away when the kids learns to talk either. I have seen mothers in public ignore the loud unintelligible noises small children make when they throw a tantrum. They keep playing on their phone while their kids try desperately to get their attention. These parents don’t discipline their children or even speak harshly to them.
There are so many reasons not to have children. Many people seem to think Genesis 1:28 “And God blessed them, and God said unto them: Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”
Environmentalists would have us believe the fish, especially the delta smelt and Chinook salmon, should have the power over men to steal our water, but this is an argument for another day.
Honor all the mothers in your life, every day.
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